Should You Dump Your Lover?

I just realized I went straight into that last post before we discussed the all important question of if you SHOULD dump your lover which is something you need to know in depth before you learn the best ways on how to dump your boyfriend or girlfriend.

I am a big supporter of breaking up a relationship if it really is not working. If you are not married yet and do not have kids this is the time to make sure the person you are with is the one right for you and if they are not ... why are you wasting each other time?

On the other hand a troubled relationship is not always worth ditching if it can be fixed.

You need to be well aware of the problems that exist in your relationship as well as your goals in life and a keen understanding of your partner. Some questions to ask yourself:

• Am i doing this out of anger, spite or resentment?
• What do i really want in a partner?
• What were the good times we had?
• What were the bad times we had?
• Have we resolved conflict and problems before?
• What would i do without them?

There are many more based on your own personal situation of course but this is a start. Deciding to break up without a full knowledge of why you want to and why a relationship cannot work is vital to be able to break the news with confidence and be able to maintain your stance and your integrity through the whole thing.

Another resource to help you decide is to download this ebook called 1001 questions for couples which a friend of mine used to decide if he should move on or if this person was worth fighting for. They are now married but before that he was almost out the door!

So before you ask how do i break up with my girlfriend or boyfriend make sure you know this is the right decision in your heart and mind. If you have already doen this then click below for further information ...

20 Ways to Leave Your Lover