This is a pet peeve of mine just like the schemes some guys and girls try to get thier lover to break up with them. However it still goes on again and again with phones, text messages and now with so much communication online it gets even worse.
Breaking up over twitter is probably the lowest but any social network or email is just as bad as texting and is below the phone call ... at least with a phone call you can actually have a conversation however scary and emotional it may seem.
This goes back the the fear of the break up, the fear of confrontation, the fear of having to look them in the eye and reveal to them that you do not love them any more. I understand, this is hard, i have been through the same angst myself but the thought of revealing this in a cold distant way was even worse.
The only time i see this as acceptable if is your lover is prone to VIOLENT outbursts and abuse. However most relationships are not like that, most are not scared of a fist but of the crying, the puppy dog eyes and the question that disarms so many people when it should be the thing you know the most ... WHY.
So anyway ... please please please when figuring out how to dump your girlfriend or how to dump your boyfriend do not take the cowards way out. This does not actually help you, it just delays the drama or puts it into a different form and everyone will think you are weak and a total jerk for what you have done.
Take the higher path and the outcomes for your are better ... just get over the fear. This guide can help you do that.
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Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Should You Get Your Lover to Leave YOU?
This is something i have seen a lot and talked about a lot. Someone who does not know how to break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend comes across the genius idea to somehow manipulate the situation so that THEY dump YOU. Does this work? Is this the perfect crime?
In my experience this has NEVER worked. Often the entire scheme comes undone at the first hiccup revealing the entire thing in a messy tell all session ending with an ugly break up OR a new commitment to the relationship they were trying to get out of out of guilt!
Other problems include not breaking up but creating an even more damaged relationship making it an even worse break up when it comes or the very few that actually do work and the scheme somehow comes to fruition and they leave you ... then they find out about the plot later just delaying the drama and making you look like a total JERK.
How to dump your girlfriend or boyfriend is as much about you and the way you conduct yourself as it is about your lover and why you want to break up in the first place. Trying to get THEM to dump you is a cowards way out ... you are scared to actually confront and end the relationship or you are worried about what the world may think of you for doing it.
The first rule on how to leave your girlfriend or boyfriend is to have the courage to do so and the respect for yourself and your lover to do it face to face with honesty.
This does mean you have to simply blurt it out or lay down a list of reasons you now think they are a bad lover no no NO! There are many ways you can use psychology and knowledge of yourself and your lover to steer the break up in the best direction leaving you both emotionally free ... click below to find out mroe about these techniques and how to wield that power.
In my experience this has NEVER worked. Often the entire scheme comes undone at the first hiccup revealing the entire thing in a messy tell all session ending with an ugly break up OR a new commitment to the relationship they were trying to get out of out of guilt!
Other problems include not breaking up but creating an even more damaged relationship making it an even worse break up when it comes or the very few that actually do work and the scheme somehow comes to fruition and they leave you ... then they find out about the plot later just delaying the drama and making you look like a total JERK.
How to dump your girlfriend or boyfriend is as much about you and the way you conduct yourself as it is about your lover and why you want to break up in the first place. Trying to get THEM to dump you is a cowards way out ... you are scared to actually confront and end the relationship or you are worried about what the world may think of you for doing it.
The first rule on how to leave your girlfriend or boyfriend is to have the courage to do so and the respect for yourself and your lover to do it face to face with honesty.
This does mean you have to simply blurt it out or lay down a list of reasons you now think they are a bad lover no no NO! There are many ways you can use psychology and knowledge of yourself and your lover to steer the break up in the best direction leaving you both emotionally free ... click below to find out mroe about these techniques and how to wield that power.
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